We spend 8 hours a day to sleep, and the next 16 to worry about our appearances, achievements, cars, houses, … But it seems to be not enough for us when the ambition is rising day by day, we always say we are too busy loving ourselves instead of loving or caring other people.
These are signals how a selfish person act out, think about yourself in the next 5 years with the same selfishness, the same behavior, are you happy with this? Is it someone you would like to be? The one that only wants personal benefit for their own. Instead of bringing you pleasant and happiness, it may make you suffer all the pain and loneliness.
How selfishness ruin everything:
Selfishness tends to push people away – it is one of the least appealing character traits.
We can start to think of people in terms of what they can do for us rather than enjoying unconditional friendships.
Self-obsession means we are more prone to worry and mental health problems.
Selfishness may make it easier for us to fall into traps like addiction.
Our selfishness can mean we hurt others as we ruthlessly strive to satisfy our own needs.
Self-centeredness can damage our reputation and lead to loneliness.
It destroys families.
Meanwhile a kind-hearted person is likely to have a healthier and more peaceful life. It can be said that kindness helps heal your soul for being so selfish in the past. You used to be the one like that before does not mean it will be continued in the future when you decide to change.
Some of the other ways kindness heals includes:
Kind-heartedness is a joyful way of being in the world.
Being kind to ourselves increases our ability to deal with hardship – we become more resilient.
Kindness is the most appealing human character trait.
It makes it easier to make friends and keep friends.
Kindness means we feel good about ourselves.
If we have a genuine kind-hearted attitude towards ourselves, it will not be possible to remain stuck in addiction.
Practicing kindness is good for our physical and mental health.
Kind-hearted people tend to sleep easier at night.
The moment you begin to love others and care for their interests rather than just your own, you begin to see your potential for joy increase dramatically. Here is a miracle thing when you open your heart: you’ll reach to the fulfilled emotion that you had been seeking for a while ago.
So rather than always rushing to get on top, to acquire more, or to impress others, take time to help someone else. And rather than looking at a person through the lens of worldly success, look into their heart instead – you may be surprised what you discover.
It’s time to seek more. And time to realize there are greater things available outside than staying in our own tiny world.